Take away her birthday, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, anniversary, and any other special occasion, and you’ll have around 360 days left to romance her. While extraordinary romantic gestures are great, I believe everyday activities may be even better.
“The little things matter” is something we always hear, but what are they? Every relationship is unique, special and personal, so my answers today are not meant to be a universal. Regardless, I’m confident we’ll find some common ground with my answers.
Let’s get started:
Be there when she needs you
We’re all overrun by our busy lives, but sometimes it means prioritizing her over the other important things for the day. Sometimes that could mean rescheduling a meeting, canceling drinks with friends, or postponing a trip you planned to take. In the end, this small gesture leads to something bigger – commitment. And trust me guys, girls like commitment.
Take her on dates
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone, dating should never stop. In fact, I love calling a random night out a “date.” It brings memories of date #1 together even though it’s date #1825+.
When you’re not together, get her something
Let’s say you’re traveling without her, bring back a souvenir you think she’ll like. It’s a small gesture, but she’ll be happy that you thought of her while being away. Another example is if you’re out grabbing dinner with your friends. If you don’t think she’s eaten, order take-out or even dessert – you know she won’t turn down that sweet tooth.
Appreciate each other
Neither of you are obligated to always provide nice gestures to each other. Remember to say thank you if receiving something and you’re welcome when giving. Don’t say “no problem” because it references a problem.
Take pictures, lots of them
Make documenting memories something that comes natural, but by all means live in the moment too. It makes for an enjoyable screen saver, and you can print them out for a collage book.
Anticipate her needs
When you know someone on a deeper lever, you can start to anticipate what they may and may not need. For example, after a long stressful day at work consider cooking her a fancy dinner with her favorite bottle of wine.
It literally takes most guys 10 minutes to get ready and be out the door. On the other hand, we all know how long ladies take to get ready. Show some appreciation and provide her compliments on how beautiful she looks. Also remember to compliment her personality and not just her looks.
Give each other space to grow
No matter what you do, you can’t dedicate 100% of your time to her, and you shouldn’t. A healthy relationship involves enough breathing room for each person to grow. Let her hangout with her friends or family and just be there if she needs it. For example, offer to drive and pick her up.
Impress her friends and family
Her friends and family were there before you – don’t make enemies. Remember that her happiness is tied with them too. Be nice, courteous, and show an active effort that you want to be a part of their lives too. If she’s having a girl’s night out, consider sending champagne and chocolates to their hotel room.
Take her shopping
I’ve yet to meet a girl who doesn’t like shopping. But don’t just drive her, walk around the stores with her. Be in good spirits about, and don’t nag her. Take a look around the store and find something you’d think she would look good in. If she likes it, that’s some huge brownie points right there. If not, you get an A for effort.
Do the dirty work
Before you jump the gun, I mean peeling shrimp, cracking crab legs, and possibly being an exterminator. She may know how to do all of this on her own, but she won’t turn down a nicely peeled shrimp that possibly stabbed you. There’s a good chance she had her nails done or is having more difficulty than you are. So get cracking.
Listen and speak only if needed
I know that problem-solving machine of yours is spinning, but sometimes the solution is just to listen. You may be compelled to provide a suggestion or a possible solution, but just be empathetic of her feelings and listen instead.
Remember to respond
I don’t mean within a few seconds but always get back to her in a reasonable amount of time. Remember, showing she’s a priority is key.
Share your feelings together
We can’t read minds… yet. So be open and honest about the way you feel about her. She’ll appreciate that you’re not just another guy that hides all his feelings.
Rain or shine, there’s a good chance she loves being in your warm arms. So wrap them around her, squeeze tight, and remember you love being in hers just as much.
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